The process of planning a wedding and the execution of it can drive one insane. While it may be a lot of pressure, one does not have to turn into a bridezilla. In fact, you should avoid this at all costs. No one wants to be around a bridezilla, more or less do anything for her. So today, I’m providing five steps to help you avoid becoming a bridezilla.
1. Don’t try to please every one
Everyone and their mama will have an opinion on how your day should be. Remember it’s a day to celebrate you and your (future) husband’s love and commitment to each other. Make sure it’s going to be a day that the both of you enjoy.
Make a list of five things that are most important to you. These will become your non-negotiables. If others are contributing to your wedding budget, it is wise to compromise. If you get your non-negotiables, then compromise on the rest.
2. Stay within your budget
This is a one day (or weekend) event… Why in the world would you go broke for ONE day?? It’s not worth it. Start your marriage on a strong financial ground and stay within budget.
3. Hire a planner or day-of coordinator
If planning and organizing isn’t your thing, hire someone. The last thing you want is to be running around at the last minute with lots of things that need to be done. If you are a planner like myself and will do the planning, then hire a day of coordinator. They help to alleviate some wedding stress as you won’t have to worry the details or who is going to meet the DJ and the baker. (I speak from experience as a day-of coordinator. If you are in need of a day of coordinator, send me a note. I would love to be of service.)
4. There is no such thing as a perfect wedding
Regardless of what people say, their wedding was not perfect… Something went wrong, they just probably didn’t realize it. While you shouldn’t expect a disaster, expect for a few mishaps. It’s just life. Understanding and accepting that will make things easier to deal with when they happen.
5. Remember the big picture – MARRIAGE
The main reason for your wedding is a celebration of your marriage. It will just be the two of you for the rest of your life. Remember that. This is just a step in your journey together. It’s important remind yourself the reason for the wedding so you don’t let the wedding overshadow everything else.
Anything I forgot to mention? Have questions? Let me know!